Suicide is a heavy topic and it is one we like to avoid as a society as often as possible. Suicide is the ugly elephant in the room in a lot of communities and school districts but it is something I personally faced head on in my life too. I will leave the details of my struggle for the video above in order to provide insight to the signs to look for, info about what you can do if someone close to you is having suicidal thoughts, and what you can do if you are having suicidal thoughts as well.

Wondering if you, or someone close to you, is showing warning signs for suicide? Here are just a few of the signs as discussed by National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. I know I was experiencing a few of these when I was having suicidal thoughts. Are you?

  • Talking about wanting to die or to kill oneself.
  • Researching ways to kill oneself.
  • Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
  • Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
  • Talking about being a burden to others.
  • Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.
  • Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.
  • Sleeping too little or too much.
  • Withdrawing or feeling isolated.
  • Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
  • Displaying extreme mood swings.

What can you do if you suspect someone is struggling?

BE PRESENT! Put your phone down, look them in the eye, let them know they matter to you! LISTEN! Open your ears, make them aware that you HEAR them. Ask “Hey, how ya doing?” & be real! Ask what you can do to help…they may say "Nothing" today, but tomorrow, or the day after, they may need you and knowing you're there is imperative. Avoid seeming shocked or judgemental, provide hope, and use any means possible to assist, including reaching out to professionals in suicide prevention

You having suicidal thoughts? 

YOU'RE NOT ALONE! Here are a few tips to help you cope with the pain & thoughts you're feeling. COMMUNICATE! Talk openly about your feelings with a close friend or adult you can trust. ASK FOR HELP! Nothing's more courageous than saving a life; sometimes it just happens to be your own!  AVOID ALCOHOL/DRUGS. These are depressants & will only increase feelings of hopelessness. ISOLATE THE CAUSE! Ask yourself "What is the life situation that is causing me the pain I want to stop?" Then go back to communicating about the cause to those whom you trust!

Lastly & most importantly HAVE HOPE! Be hopeful. I managed to live through these feelings & millions of others have too. Be hopeful that you will as well! Remember, you have survived 100% of your worst days and you can survive today too!

I am available to assist in any way I can but if you are currently experiencing suicidal thoughts plese call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1 (800) 273-8255 for help immediatly.

If you need anything, I'm always here to help. Message me any time. I'll answer all of you, it just takes a while, please be patient with me. In the mean time you can now check out the Relief & Resource Center for some additional topics that may be troubling you!

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