Challenges, we all got’em don’t we? So often we claim to have nothing in common with those that surround us in school, at work, in life, in the world, yet here we all are working to overcome our various challenges. We look different, we have different skin colors, sexual orientations, religions but we are all fighting to overcome the challenges in our lives to reach our goals & live fulfilling/happy lives right? Ya darned right sucka!

For some those challenges seem insurmountable no matter how small and for others challenges seem like no problem no matter how big. One thing is for sure, it’s really freaking hard to get over those challenges alone. My earliest challenges I remember were things like ordering food by myself (actually speaking the words to the server…”uuuhhhh I’d like pizza and French fries and a shake and a pickle”…really), then later going in to a Doctor’s appointment alone, and later yet going in for my first job interview, later still traveling the world - scared and alone. All of those challenges in that last run on sentence were equally huge at the time, though I can order food better now that I have had more practice just like I can travel better now with practice too!

Crazy thing though, in order to overcome those challenges I had to do some research, show some vulnerability & ask some questions, take a chance and just go for it. Sometimes I was successful, sometimes I would fail, but I would always learn and fail forward. What I would learn is that people are usually glad to help when you’re willing to ask questions to learn more of your situation. When I would ask questions I would gain momentum, and confidence, in moving forward.

I always thought that I looked stupid (I know I felt kinda stupid) when I asked questions, I thought I looked weak, but I realized that I can’t reach my goals alone and others have challenges too. The more I was willing to take a chance and assist others in their challenges the more it seemed I had help in overcoming my own. It was this realization that made me begin asking “how can I help you?”

Knowing that others had challenges they struggled with reminded me that we all have something in common and we can work together to overcome. I don’t have all the answers but I have learned some lessons on my journey and while helping others on theirs. The biggest lesson I learned through all of this though is that when we work together the challenges become less challenging. The fear that often leads to giving up or apprehension when facing a challenge is reduced because we don’t have to go it alone.

Regardless of our differences we all have commonalities and sometimes the biggest challenge we have to overcome is realizing just that. Our vulnerability can lead us to take a chance on one another, sometimes we succeed and sometimes we fail forward and learn, but what happens when unite in our struggles is that we do overcome as one. We are one. We are human and we all deserve a fulfilling & happy life. (Did this one just get pretty deep? I think it did, but you get the idea. Work together, be awesome, and smile more. It’s that simple!)

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