I used to feel like no one saw me and that I didn't matter. Part of me was ok with that too because then no one could make fun of the way I looked, what I liked, or who I was friends with. I liked that I felt safe...but I didn't feel confident.
I distinctly remember walking through my own house when I was younger feeling like no one understood me. In fact, I am sure no one did. I wasn't willing to put myself out there and communicate either so how were others supposed to understand? I didn't really know or think about that then, but I know that I felt like absolutely no one cared. I felt like this because everyone seemed interested in their own lives. My Dad & Step-Mom both were focused on work to put food on the table, my brother had gone off to college, my older sister had moved out, my younger sis lived with my Mom, and my step sister seemed to have all the friends in the world.
I would get home from school and hole up in my basement bedroom. I'd surround myself with books, listen to music, and take in horror movies while I waited for my girlfriend to call. I always felt like she was too busy for me because of sports and all her friends too. It jsut seemed no one saw me and this made me feel really vulnerable and like I just didn't matter.
It wasn't until I realized that I felt vulnerable when I was invisible at home ignoring everyone whom I thought didn't have time for me AND when I would put myself out there...but it was only when I took the chance & put myself out there that I made connections, learned how many people were just like me, and was able to feel less like a ghost! I was scared, heck, sometimes I still am, but it's worth the risk and overcoming the challenge of facing my fears feels so good.
All it takes is one small step at a time. A willingness to be vulnerable and connect with someone else. To take a chance on yourself (you're worth it) and someone else (they are too) to communicate, to build a friendship, and to overcome life's challenges together. Everyting is easier when you aren't alone and you aren't alone in dealing with these kinds of issues. When you're feeling alone get at me. If you are struggling hit up my Relief & Resource Center or just message me any time. I'll answer all of you, it just takes a while, please be patient with me. I'm here.
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