A young man’s guide to gentlemanly behavior.
Setting yourself apart from the crowd has gotten simpler over the years because of the lack of chivalry seen in males in the last few decades. Treat others better than they ever expect to be treated and the results will follow. I assure you that when other young men and women begin to take notice of the outcomes of your actions they will quickly follow suit. There are many ways to be a gentleman but below are 5 simple ways to elevate your kindness and respectability today while also setting yourself up to be a leader in the long run.
Remove Your Hat
It’s the little things, and one of the little things that you can do is remove your hat when you enter a building. Seems outdated and maybe even something so small that it is unnoticeable. In my experience, actions consistently speak louder than words and this is one of those cases. Many may not acknowledge your actions on this one but rest assured it will be noticed. This silent deed screams “This man is a gentleman!” when you enter a room. Do you want to be known as a gentleman? If so, that title starts with this simple act.
Open, and Hold, Doors
When entering or exiting any building be sure that you open the entrance or exit door and hold it until all others have passed. Always assume that men and women are perfectly capable of opening doors for themselves but know that holding the door for them shows that you’re willing to consistently put others first. While holding the door you’ll also have the opportunity to greet those entering or exiting with a few kind words and a smile, further reinforcing your gentlemanly behavior.
Entering/exiting a building is not your only opportunity for the opening, and the holding, of doors for others. When readying yourself for travel, especially with a significant other, be sure to open all car doors to allow them entry before entering the vehicle yourself. This practice can begin at any age by opening doors for your mother and other siblings when traveling together.
I often use the phrase “If you have something nice to say, say it.” This refers to handing out generous compliments whenever possible. If a positive or complimentary thought pops into your noggin, be sure to set aside your fear of communication and pass it on to the individual it is directed toward. A heavy focus on creating smiles through positive gentlemanly communication goes a long way for making others, and you, feel good about the people we surround ourselves with.
P.S. it doesn’t have to be complicated. “Good to see you!” “I love your fashion sense!” or “You have a great smile, you should do that more.” All are perfectly acceptable provided you are delivering them with a genuine intent rather than creepy objectives.
Use Your Please
Yep, again, it is that simple. Say “please” and “thank you” as often as possible! In nearly any everyday situation there is a place to use your please, don’t hesitate to let it flow freely. Gentlemanly actions don’t have to be complicated, they just have to happen.
Just do that, just give. The more compliments you pay, the more time you hand to others, the more you do for others, the more gentlemanly you become. It doesn’t matter what you have been through, how you look or what your past consists of, it matters how you treat people and what you give. The more you give the more fulfilled you will feel in life. Any opportunity you have to give kindness, give it. When you are giving it, be sure you are giving as much of it as you can. Gentlemen put others first and giving to others is how it is done.
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